This is a continuation from yesterday’s blog Lyrics. So, if you have not read that, you may want to so that this one makes sense.
I decided to text him back and try one more time to see if he is really contemplating suicide. He actually replied to me for a change.
Me: They are really sad. (re: the lyrics of the song)
Him: Yeah. It’s my life.
Me: It doesn’t have to be.
Him: How do you figure. You want a divorce. You wanted me to leave. So that pretty much puts me in that situation.
Him: I am so tired
Me: What do you mean?
Him: Wanted you to know that I still love you and always will. You have always been the love of my life. Since C (son) won’t talk to me, please make sure he knows I love him and I’m sorry.
Me: He knows.
Him: Please don’t worry about me anymore.
Me: I always will.
Him: Don’t bother yourself anymore.
Me: Will you please stop that?
Him: It will be in your best interest and easier.
Me: I am really concerned. Are you contemplating suicide?
And nothing after that.
First, I didn’t put him in this situation. He put himself in this situation.
Second, he has never been good at finding the words to communicate how he feels. I remembered last night that he told me to read the lyrics to Buckcherry’s “I’m Sorry” back when he was cheating on me the first time (2006-2007). So, I am finding yesterday’s song a little cliché.
Third, I am glad that I did not take the bait. The old me would have taken his text about loving me and turned it into a, “Well, if you loved me then you wouldn’t have <insert a multitude of choices here>.” Actually, the old me would have taken a couple of those texts and turned it down a non-productive path. I guess I am trying to let go of the anger. My life is better without him in the house. My son’s life is better too. I am sorry his is not, but he has made his choices and now he has to live (or not – I don’t want to think about that) with the consequences.
Fourth, I do not think that I am the right person to help him even though I want to be. [By the way, I want to be because that is just my nature. I am a fixer and want to help/save everyone.] I have decided to reach out to a friend and colleague of his through facebook if he does not reply to my question today. I know this person and I think he will be compassionate; his girlfriend too. This could make stbx mad, but I am ok with that. I really want him to get help.
Send prayers, please. This is a very volatile and scary situation. Thank you.
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